Sunday, January 22, 2017

Treat Yourself to a Healthy Serving of Forgiveness

Here's a great opportunity to be selfish. Treat yourself to a hefty helping of forgiveness...that is, forgive someone who has hurt you.  We often don't consider that granting forgiveness is for our sake.  Nobody ever truly deserves forgiveness.  But, neither do we.  Granting forgiveness is a great opportunity to be selfish because it is just as beneficial for the person who has been offended.  Don't harbor bitterness it will eat you alive.  
Someone once said that harboring un-forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the person who offended us to die.  
We treat ourselves to our favorite ice cream, or pair of shoes, or day at the spa, or the newest gadget.  How about we treat ourselves to a huge helping of forgiveness for others.  Go ahead be selfish, you deserve it!

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Crockpot Miracles:

   I was in a church service recently when I heard a lady say very emphatically,  "It don't take God long to do nothing!"  I thought about that on my way home and allowed myself to resonate with the fact that that's not necessarily true. Sometimes it takes a longer time to get the miracles that we want in our lives.    I've seen God work in my life very slowly and very, perhaps, methodically.   Because it took more time, I was allowed to marinade and learn lessons along The way that I would not have learned if my "miracle" came over night.  I was able to  glean from the wonderful opportunities that  that season allowed. So I'm not throwing shade on the notion of quick miracles. But, You may be praying for something or looking for something in your life that expect  to happen immediately. Know that God, at times, allows some miracles to come more slowly.  So don't give up buy into the process and along the way keep your eyes open for the things that he is doing as you're waiting for that over-arcing miracle to take place. God is a God of right now;but he is also a God of low and slow.

Tuesday, May 10, 2016


                But How?
   We are often encouraged not to FEAR, and to TRUST God in all situations. But it's easy to say, "DON'T WORRY" and "TRUST GOD," and "DON'T DOUBT."  Just saying these things doesn't suddenly make us be able to live them out.  We are rarely told how to go about achieving these declarations. 
   Here a few tips that I've learned to help me in this area:
1. when I wake up, and before I go to bed, I inundate myself with Scriptures such as these:
"I have it all planned out-plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for" (Jeremiah 29:10c-MSG)
"Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don't try to figure everything out on your own" (Proverbs 3:5 MSG)
"...that trusting me, you will be unshakeable and assured, deeply at peace..." (John 16:31c MSG)
"God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves"
(1John 3:18c MSG).  Filling mind with scriptures such as these and more help me to recalibrate and adjust my focus.
2. I journal and  constantly remind myself of the times in my past when I was going through a challenging situation;and looking back on it, I saw how God worked things out, and got me through it.  Taking time to remember, gives me hope for my present and future. 
3. I write at least 3 things I'm thankful for each day.  Taking time to notice the positive things that are happening in my life helps me to stay optimistic and encouraged.
   I try to start and end my day with these daily reminders.  As I inundate myself with this information
 it helps me to "NOT DOUBT" God's presence and help and to "TRUST" that I will get through challenging times and situations.  As I exercise these practices I see myself being better able to "WORRY NOT."


Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Give Us A Try!

   I apologize on behalf of ALL the churches who have gotten it wrong.  Who have forgotten the purpose for which what we were designed, for all the ways we have pushed away all the people whom we should have been pulling in.  For all the ways we've been insular in how we have catered to each other (church people).  Forgive us for, in some cases, being down right mean and self-righteous.  Please forgive us for doing too much as we've added a whole bunch of "extraness" on top of what it takes to follow Jesus.
   If I am ridiculed by my fellow Christian brothers and sisters for being relevant and touchable so that I might win some, oh well.  May the love I give and grace I extend to all those who have been turned off by the church, show that it's PEOPLE who have gotten it wrong not the institution that is the church.  Jesus never intended for us to add all the "stuff" that we have on top of what it takes to have a relationship with him.  He never wanted us to make it difficult for those who want to follow him.  God's plan is simple (but not necessarily easy):  He wants us to Love him, and love each other.  
   So, if you never went to church, or stopped going, don't give up. Give us a try. Just find a church that is welcoming to ALL people.  Where the only agenda is to love you unconditionally and  to share the truths of God's word in culturally relevant way that makes going to church irresistible.

Monday, April 18, 2016


An Imperfect Christian

   Since I became a follower of Christ I have not been perfect.  I have talked about someone behind their back, I have been jealous, I have struggled with pride, I have lied...(just to name a few sins).  Yet, Jesus never gave up on me and I never stopped trying to be more like Him, and he continues to love me.  Just because you didn't know my struggles doesn't mean they don't exist. I hope you won't throw me away for sharing this...and please let's not mistreat those whose struggles are more obvious than mine.  I've had these struggles AS a Christ follower.  So why are our expectations so warped towards those who are not (Christ followers)?  They should be treated with the same amount of grace that you might extend to me.  Everyone has issues (yes, Bishops and even the Pope), whether you're a Christian or not. 

  Let's make ourselves approachable in such a way as not to come across as some sort of super saint (like we're better than those with struggles).  Let's run toward the messes not away from them.  I love Jesus with all my heart and just as I am forgiven, I'm determined to extend grace and show love to others.  #graceforall

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

Celebrate The Good

    The positive things in our life can often be so mired in the miasma of our world that we forget to celebrate the good.  
   We sometimes look at other people, who seemingly have it all together, and long for the life they have.  There is no one on the planet with "the perfect life."  But I've watched people who are dealing with the most treacherous issues navigate their life with uplifting and encouraging resolve.  I want to be one of those people. 
   We all have so many things in our lives to celebrate and be thankful for.  But we must be more vigilantly conscious of them.  Sharing a fun moment with a loved one, enjoying our favorite ice cream, listening to our favorite song...these are just some examples of simple things that we often don't stop to relish.  No matter how hard life may get we have to remember to build in some exhale moments.  What simple things make you smile?  Find a way to have more of that in your life.  Hang in there, and celebrate the good.  There are better days ahead.

Monday, March 21, 2016

Love "Trumps" It All!

   My husband spoke last Sunday about how we should never let politics get in the way of how we treat each other.  No matter who's in office or who's running, if we treat everyone with consideration, kindness, and respect would it matter?  The love that we show towards our fellow man should always trump whatever is happening in the political arena.  Being polarized over differing political lines is not a good excuse for treating someone with disdain.  We may not agree but let's not allow our opinions to cause harm in any way.

   So, whatever your political affiliation, we all have one thing in common…  We're all human and even during this season of heightened political exposure, whether you're in office, running, or you're simply a fellow American, let love win!